soccergirl

Dear daughter,

I know you’ve been trying to ask for a Bratz doll for your Holiday presents. It didn’t work last year, it won’t work this year either. Didn’t happen for your 5th birthday this year, it will never work for your upcoming birthdays ever. You might think that Mom and Dad are cruel, not granting your wish of having a hoochie-like dool. What lesson could you learn from having a doll dresses like that? The commercial was awful as well. Bunch of tweens acting up like they are 20s, wearing [too] mini skirts, lots of make ups, and shaking their booties. Sending wrong messages to little girls, in my opinion. You don’t have to dress or act like a hoochie to be hip. You are too cool for that, Davi. Mom happened to read an article from AP News recently that child development experts say that physical and behavioral changes that would have been typical of teenagers decades ago are now common among “tweens” – kids ages 8 to 12.

That is scary, Davi. I don’t want you to grow up too early, yet alone be matured by the age of 8. They don’t even consider having period in 3rd grade as early, can you believe that? I had mine when I was in 7th grade. We don’t want you to be having to deal with peer pressure and other societal influences when you’re not emotionally prepared.

Now it’s Dante’s turn…

Son, do you know why Mom and Dad won’t let you play the violent video games? Nor watching movies/programs full of sex, violence and foul language? Because it’s going to be a struggle for you to process the images of sex, violence and adult humor, even when Mom and Dad try to shield them. And sometimes parents end up encouraging the behavior by failing to set limits – in essence, handing over power to their kids. This is a homework for Mom, since she sometimes failed to carefully watch what’s the kids are listening to in the car. Mom likes Fergie’s London Bridge, but that doesn’t mean you guys need to listen to her singing,”… All my girls get down on the floor/Back to back, drop it down real low/I’m such a lady, but I’m dancing like a ho/‘Cause you know/I don’t give a fuck, so here we go!…” We rarely watch MTV or BET at home, so you guys won’t miss it at all. If I could, my children, I would just let you watch IPTV -even Nickelodeon has some tacky program for teens/tweens.

Davi, I’m glad you haven’t asked us to buy Bratz’s line of clothing. I can’t believe how some parents think it’s cute when their daughters wear pants or shorts with words such as “hottie” on the back. Kudos for Diane Levin, a professor of human development and early childhood at Wheelock College in Boston, who is also author of the upcoming book “So Sexy So Soon: The Sexualization of Childhood”. Earlier this year, she and others from a group known as the Campaign for a Commercial-Free Childhood successfully pressured toy maker Hasbro to drop plans for a line of children’s toys modeled after the singing group Pussycat Dolls.

So kids, I know it’s not going to be easy. You’ll have the peer pressure to have this and that and will get mad at us for not letting you. Hopefully you’d see that Mom and Dad are doing this because we love you and care about you.