Why Shouldn’t Women Raise the Toilet Seat Up When Done?
The sign says:
“AS A COURTESY TO OTHER GUESTS OF THIS BATHROOM, PLEASE MAKE SURE YOU PUT THE TOILET SEAT DOWN WHEN YOU ARE DONE.”
Obviously, this sign is adressed to the male guests. Apparently, there’s a female worker (I’m pretty sure it’s a she) in our building who is bothered by the lack of ‘tolerance’ showed by those testosterone guests. When she couldn’t tolerate it anymore, she took it out with a help of her trusted Microsoft Office Word. She created some signages and walked around the building, armed with double-sided tape, posting the signs in the staff’s bathrooms.
“That just makes me NOT want to do it ever,” scoffed a male coworker.
I know I’d be like, “Oh man!” if I walk into a bathroom and found the toilet seat is up. Escpecially if the previous male user of the bathroom missed his aim and it’s all over the toilet rim. But that’s about it. I’d lower it down and continue to finish my business. I don’t go about and make protest signs. This happens in my house too from time to time, as dad and son are competing on who’d do that often.
Is it a dogma for men to lower the toilet seat down automatically when they’re done? When was this established, actually? Who declared it? Why not the other way around? Is it because the society is female-dominated? Or is it because of men are taught to always put ladies first? Have you heard of guys expect women to raise the toilet seat up when done?
I’m just curious…
16 comments so far
Leave a reply
D, I think it’s because in most houses women DO the houseworks, so they establish rules which are most convenient to them. If men want to be able to say the similar thing (put the toilet seat UP after you’re done), they should start cleaning bathroom and do the hoovering and let the ladies sit back and watch Desperate Housewives *lol.
Yes, this widespread phenomenon of appalling and disgusting domestic abuse and harrowing gender discrimination, has
to be terminated.
Shall we start a small mixed and secret toilet police force to maintain toilet discipline?
Women shouldn’t, really.
It’s this simple: It’s a toilet, there’s a seat there, it’s supposed to be put back, not to be raised up most of the times.
Otherwise toilet makers would have definitely put some kind of a latch there for the seat to be hooked to it so that the toilet users have to raise it back up.
But no. No. It’s just wrong.
I remember when I used to board, there was a Chinese boy who shared the house with us, and he always took a piss without even bothering to raise the seat up, which really fucking pissed me off to see the toilet seat having speckles of yellow drops all over it. He didn’t even bloody wipe it.
I was really appalled; obviously he’d have seen that he’d missed his shot, like, a lot? Why didn’t he raise the seat up? Why didn’t he wipe it?
I had to confront him and obviously he didn’t get it so I had to tell my host mother to reconfront him. What happened next?
He still pissed with the seat down – only this time he wiped it with the toilet paper – but not that clean.
There was still yellow speckles of water here and there.
In the end he moved out – but only because he didn’t want to be caught using the phone bill to surf some porn sites – in which my host mother had to pay for it all and clearly she wasn’t all that happy I can tell you that much.
i dont get american women and their obsession with potty training their men. i mean, there are bigger problems, why do they have to indulge themselves in petty things like these?
just put the bloody toilet seat back down for god’s sake. it’s not like the action burns 1000 calories and takes 90 minutes to do, right?
fyi, my husband and i share house chores and he is the one who cleans the bathroom and toilet, so i really dont care if he leaves the toilet seat up, which he seldom does..
@anita: always with the wise comment
your input does make sense.
@colson: lol. when we first ‘teach’ our 5 year old son about restroom manner, he of course ask why (like any other ‘whys’ he always ask) and for the life of me, i couldn’t give him the right answer.
@therry: always with a straight forward answer, my girl :p
for the guys with aiming-disability like your ‘friend’, maybe urinals would work better. but in small office buildings like ours, we just have one type of restoom with no urinals. i suppose the guys here are not that bad with aiming, but the lady who made the signages was too tired of putting the lid down, i suppose…
@rima: exacto mundo. i don’t think it’ll take that much of energy to lower the freakin’ lid down. even if she feels rather icky, just use your foot :p
it used to be only one type (here), that’s without any seat whatsoever.
i think someone should design toilet with ability to adjust to gender like transformer hihihihihi*dream on, ya, D!*
My wife always gave me a hard time about lowering the toilet seat so I just gave up and now I just piss in the tub! works great and no seat to lower.
@melly: that would scare some people and they’d probably piss all over because of that :p
@balakan: seriously???
Din,
I agree with Therry.
Woman shoudn’t. The reason is because man have their own toilet.
Just because they use “woman” toilet then they have the obligation to lower down the the toilet seat.
Is it a dogma ?
Well… I haven’t recall that issue as a dogma. As far as I know it’s about discipline, it’s because the society is male dominated not female.
Why, because we never blamed our husband or our son if they forgot to lower down the toilet seat
I think we should declare it and announce it as part of new discipline
‘ta, welcome back to the blog world :p
I know it does sound weird to propose the idea of women raising the toilet seat up when they’re done.
But it is expected for men to lower the seat down…
I wonder if urinals were invented after of about the same time toilet seat?
I guess in the toilet world, women are the most dominant. There’s hardly ever urinals built/made in private homes.
Although if you watch the HGTV channel, modern homes nowadays do built/make urinals as a standard bathroom items.
Having two boys at home, I do have this trouble too. Especially those late nights visit to the bathroom. But seriously, not a biggie…
You know what? I say get over it! It could be worse! My dad leaves the toilet seat down and he pees on it! I refuse to sit on that toilet with or without pee unless I clean it first NO MATTER HOW BAD I HAVE TO GO! So…it could be worse…they could be chain smokers who drink nothing but pepsi coke and coffee and they could have DISGUSTING dark yellow GROSS pee…. Be thankful that they’re putting the seat up!
another thing…..WHY CANT GUY PUT THE SEAT UP MORE OFTEN?!
how many men does it takke to change a roll of toilet paper?
answer: nobody knows it never happens.
At home, do whatever you would like.
However, work (or any other place other than your home) is a different story since you’re having to share the bathroom with other people. It’s common courtesy.
Response to “should women put the seat back up”: When both genders have to share a bathroom, once again, it’s common courtesy to put the seat down. If toilet seats were used with the seat up most of the times, it would be common courtesy to put it back up. Reality proves otherwise. Men, not only women, use the toilet with the seat down, granted it is not always the case for men.
Tampons and pads in the garbage can (wrapped in toilet paper), & toilet seat down – two obvious common courtesies both men and women should follow.
Therry: I had an arsehole male live with me who did the same thing – didn’t lift the seat, and pissed all over the seat. I was bloody stunned and just appalled.
I didn’t know people were so fkd up.
Got rid of him quick smart.
Why Shouldn’t Women Raise the Toilet Seat Up When Done?
Because if it’s up WE have to touch the grotty seat, and sometimes sit down not realising the fkn seat is up, creating a phenomenon known as “porcelain shock”, which a male RARELY experiences. Why? Because they’re so used to pissing with the seat up, they LOOK when they have to have a shit. On the other hand, we piss same every time, and forget to look if seat is up or down. Males also look for something to read when they have to put the seat down (males need to read an epic novel when they shit?) therefore their eyes are directed to a lower view – thus they see the seat is up.
Simple.
So put the seat down, be a gentleman. Ha. Won’t hold my breathe.
It sounds absurd in my puny male greek mind, and i can’t fathom how you got to think it natural, that one or the other user of the bathroom should (or could) guess who is going to be the next user of the bathroom and leave the toilet seat in the proper position.
I have searched the internets for a reasonable explanation and found none. You clean the house so you make the rules? That’s no excuse for absurd rules. You don’t want to touch the seat? But you sit on it. You don’t want to look before you sit? You are just blaming others for your not looking and just assuming the seat is down, a habit you got from living too long alone!